Reflecting on our past can be a powerful exercise in growth and self-awareness. When posed with the question of what advice we would give our younger selves, Dave shares a heartfelt response, revealing the lessons he’s learned and the wisdom he’s gained over the years. Here’s his thoughtful and insightful answer.
Question: If you could go back in time and tell your younger self anything at all, what would it be?
Dave: I actually love this question. I have played that fantasy over and over in my mind. I know exactly what I would say to my younger self. There are actually three important points I’d like to make to my younger self.
First, I would say, you will never be more capable of making a change to your current situation than you are at this very moment. Don’t look around for someone to save you; look into the mirror. No one else can know more than you do right now about how to improve your life. You will never be younger than you are right now. You are your own best hero and your best hope for change. Change is always difficult, but the results are always worth the effort.
Second, I’d tell myself to take more risks. Don’t be fearful of the outcome but be confident in your ability to adapt. I’d tell that kid that comfort is a distraction and debilitating. I’d say that he should welcome any opportunity to fail and use it as a way to get stronger and smarter. Just like lifting iron, if you push and pull your way through some of the most challenging experiences, you will develop into someone greater than you imagine.
Third, you must do much better at communicating. Be kinder with your words. Remember that you can’t take back words, so choose them wisely. Words have power—they can build someone up or tear them down in an instant. Once spoken, they can’t be undone or unsaid. Always think about the impact of your words before you speak, especially in moments of frustration. Consider the love you have for who you’re talking to instead of how you might be feeling in the moment. Choose words that reflect the person you want to be and demonstrate the value of their relationship.
Okay, so one more thing I’d leave with my younger self: you are so loved! You’re surrounded by the most amazing and loving people who support you and encourage you. Even though they might think you don’t need their encouragement, be sure to remind them constantly just how important they are to you. You’re not good at this still. Do better! Do it for them.
This is what I would say to my younger self, but it is also what I must remind myself of every day. While I don’t have an opportunity to go back, I can move forward as a better version. That alone is pretty amazing.
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